positive attitude

Positive attitude is a requirement for healing, but sometimes people think that having a positive attitude means never admitting that they have any problems, either psychological or physical. They think that a positive attitude means denying negative conditions and that if they hold an image of complete positivity in their minds, the image will materialize.
The problem with this approach is that it leads to suppression of negative conditions, instead of integration and release. If you are constantly telling yourself how excellent you are, there is no room left for the perception of the negative side of life, which certainly will not go away just because you are trying to deny it. Your idea of the positive is just a concept and is not related to the natural balancing of energies in the feeling body. Indeed, insistence on seeing only the perceived positive will reinforce the existence of the negative, since one depends on the other. In our work, we have learned that we must acknowledge the negative. Yet maintaining the right kind of “positive attitude” can be of benefit.
Positive attitude results from the proper understanding of how to work on yourself. When you know you are clearing long-held negativities; when you feel yourself growing, positive attitude comes naturally. You become positive about accepting and experiencing the negative. You become positive about all of life, not just about whatever is immediately pleasing. The finite mind surrenders to whatever the Higher Self brings forth, and you become the Witness. Such a positive attitude can supply the energy and enthusiasm to enable you to confront Karma successfully.

loving yourself....

When the expressions “loving yourself” or “self-love” are first heard, there may be confusion about what is meant. This is because we think in terms of the love we are familiar with, dependent love. If we try to love ourselves, we may take an approach similar to that used in dependent love, using ourselves as the object of our love. We may try to escape into ourselves, as we escaped into others. We may become self-absorbed and self-indulgent, putting our own needs first. The motive is still to escape. We reject unhappiness and, in so doing, reject ourselves.

Self-love has nothing to do with using yourself as the object of your love. Self-love means that your love comes from within, is generated from within, not from “loving” any object because it may please you tremendously, whether that object is someone else or yourself. Self-love is a condition of awareness, a way of perceiving, an attitude, which results in an integrated perception of the world.

The art of loving yourself begins with self-acceptance. They are essentially the same. You begin loving yourself when you stop rejecting yourself, especially on the feeling level. When you practice self-acceptance of your feelings as they are now, you will experience real changes in consciousness. You no longer try to juggle people or possessions in the external world in order to find fulfillment. You find fulfillment from within, simply by accepting, without acting out, your feelings as they are right now.

Do not underestimate the importance of self-acceptance. It can end the emotional pain that you feel or lead to the spiritual experience you want. Starting with the mundane, you will reach the highest of inner realization. In welcoming all your feelings, you become whole; life becomes holistic. You experience oneness. You no longer compulsively search for oneness in the external world, whether with another person or with an achievement. You accept and love yourself.

Breaking Up is Hard to Do...........

Breaking up is hard to do. Everyone goes through it more than once in a lifetime. Some breakups are harder than others because of the emotional bond.When a love one dies, you grieve for a period of time and slowly move on with life. Theres no difference when you break up from a relationship. You grieve, moan and groan for a while, cry and think about the good times and bad.The only difference is most women think about going back to their ex even when they know it was not their fault in the first place. Some stay in a bad relationship because they been together for a long time and that's not good either.Don't dig up your ex from the grave, leave them there and move on....guess we have to move forward....